Ouch

I was working on myself which should come as no surprise to anyone who reads these blogs and reached over to “Going In to Find Out” and it opened to the mediation below. Initially I felt it was not relevant, but in the course of the past few days it has come up as a topic for a number of people. As always, though it should no longer surprise me, I was fascinated that so many people wanted to talk about pain. Not only their own but others. Here’s hoping that this helps you or someone you know.

PAIN 

How much pain are you in? It could be physical pain; it could be mental or emotional. Most pain is a combination of physical and mental/emotional for the feelings of pain manifest most readily in the body. You could be experiencing pain from physical ailments. Your joints could be aching or sore, you could suffer from greater maladies that cause you a constant flow of pain. In some cases it is difficult to distance your Self from the physical pain for it seems so pervasive. Pain is a reality, but what you choose to do with it is a choice. You can have pain and choose not to suffer. You can have pain and choose to put your mind somewhere else. Or you can choose to acknowledge your pain and seek to find relief from it. I hear “How?” for some of you despair that you cannot distance your Self from pain, but we shall explore this phenomenon. 

Let us work with the mind first. What happens when you think sad thoughts? Do you feel uplifted, enlivened, or happy? You often use the terms “broken heart” or “it felt like a knife in my stomach.” Most of the time you are referring to some mental experience that you are manifesting through words to be in your body. No other person can inflict pain upon you without your permission. That is a fact. It may sound harsh to some for there are many humans that are masterful at inflicting emotional upheaval, but again we state they cannot affect you if you do not allow it to be so. You can choose whether to listen to others opinions of you or not. If you do not hold your Self in high esteem then it is easy for others to inflict mental pain for you willingly allow it and some might say attract it. 

Why do you want this pain? Let us take a situation of an ended relationship. Now this relationship could have ended through attrition or death. Either way, the person is no longer in your life. What are your emotions - sadness, anger, grief, loss? You can choose to experience these and that is a big part of the human condition, but how long you continue to grieve the end of the relationship is completely within your control.  The past is the past and you can dwell in it as long as you choose, but whilst you are dwelling there life continues to happen right before your eyes. So what do you choose – pain of loss or life with possibilities? 

Now if you have physical pain what can you do for it or about it? If you have a disease can you manage the illness enough to put the pain aside? If it is aches and pains from aging or too much weight or not enough weight, can you alter your behaviours to be more honoring of your body; this vessel that moves you from place to place? If you cannot find a solution of setting aside the pain, can you work with the mental aspects of your Self to choose not to suffer from the pain? It is possible and again it is completely within your control No one can tell you the level of pain you can tolerate, but you would be surprised how you can ignore pain when something joyful or uplifting comes along. Think about how willing you are to push through pain if you know that you are going to a party, or seeing someone you have not seen in a long time or whatever the happy event could be. This tells us that if you can find joy, happiness and love in the things that surround you, you can triumph over the pain in ways you never thought possible. Many of the medicines that are given to you for pain control change the chemistry of the brain so that you don’t pay attention to the pain. Why not try to change the chemistry of your brain with joy, laughter, connection and love? Those are the best drugs there are in the universe. 

We leave you in joy.

Namaste