Hook Me Up
A codependent, a connector and an opportunist walk into a bar. And they are all me!!
A friend told me her daughter and family were moving to a new house in the same town. It was a home belonging to some friends of theirs and they had always loved it. The daughter also has a lovely home and another friend’s daughter (who lives in the same city) has been looking without much success. I asked my friend some pertinent questions and then dashed off a text to the mother of the other daughter. One could say it was the Mom Mafia with assistance from Moi. We then found the link to view the house and sent that along as well. How pleased were we? Very!!
The next morning in my Words with Friends app was a message. “Apparently I was not authorized to share the ‘house for sale soon’ info. But it’s all good.” Ooops!!
I immediately got out my codependent hammer to hit myself on the head, but then I stopped. One of my traits (most charming in my opinion) is to be a connector. People need things, services, direction and I appear with my magic bag to pull out the necessary information.
A connector enjoys being needed and helping others. They feel uplifted when they are able to contribute to the well being of others; be it a simple compliment, praise for a job well done, or supporting them through tougher times. (according to personalitylingo.com).
Sounds familiar and yet it is different in some ways from your everyday codependent. This is where the world gets a bit fuzzy and the borders leaky. I had no desire to “fix” anyone, but I did see a path to helping out two “girls” I have know for most of their lives and in my opinion, it was a win/win. My husband has always said that the sign of a good deal is when both parties benefit!
Then in walks the opportunist. Real estate is crazy right now. Neither of the “girls” involved have much time as they work very demanding jobs followed by husbands and children. Here was a solution that could solve two dilemmas and benefit all. Each would get a great house and neither had to do too much heavy lifting. It could be a quiet hand-off that never hits the market.
The sales are on hold for the moment, and they may or may not work out. The outcome is not the point for me (although you know I hope it all does come to fruition because wouldn’t that be fabulous). What is the point is I was able to take a step back and really look at all aspects of my need to help, connect and grab onto the good deals. I have made a few mental notes for the future such as contact the seller first to find out their plans, but in fairness to me, I did have a couple of other “Moms” helping on this one.
(As a side note, two days after I wrote this another friend contacted me to say “from one connector to another, I need…..” So it is real and I am not alone!!)
